Dating a recently divorced man with children
However, when we look at relationships that prosper and relationships that end, there are some common themes.It’s not that one or another characteristic is going to make or break your relationships, past, present or future; It’s just that successful and unsuccessful relationships have, broadly speaking, some patterns.But knowing that isn’t going to make you want to do it.What’s more, getting out there before you’re really ready is a formula for disaster.
Sure, I’ve had my share of breakups that were hard to get through. When you go through a divorce a big part of who you were before changes.For most people, dating someone with kids is disappointing and frustrating at times. I applaud divorced dads (and moms) and the people who date them, because it really truly isn’t easy, and you have to be unselfish.That said, there are some people who date divorced dads who just don’t get it. Awhile ago, I wrote a blog post called Are Divorced Guys A Turnoff To women? In that post, I wrote this quote: “Who one woman gives up could be another woman’s love of her life.” A reader then commented about it: This might be impossible, especially if the couple had children, they are always ‘first, forever’. I got nothing (except dirty looks from ex/kids), they all have legal/blood ties together, so I didn’t want to move in with a family to pay 1/2 the mortgage to be an outsider, permanently. That doesn’t diminish our love for each other, it just is the natural order of the priorities of being a parent.No matter how independent you are, to some degree your identity is tied up with being married and being married to her.Even if you’re the one who wanted out, there’s still going to be a big hole in your brain where your relationship used to live.
This means the woman is putting the divorced dad first, and he’s putting her second, or third. That is a given and needs to be accepted by anyone who chooses to date a divorced dad. Tough situation (for me, not them, they all have each other). Ask yourself if you really really love this person and if you do, then staying with him (or her) even under the roughest of circumstances should be a no-brainer!