Dating customs in latin america
I mentioned how I don’t believe in not having sex before marriage because I view sex as a fundamental part of any relationship (I mentioned at least 50%).I also mentioned that if you didn’t have mind-blowing sex, you are greatly missing out.One of the recurring themes on this blog besides travel is American dating. After all, I’m a single man who just happens to like women.Since I was also born and partly raised in Eastern Europe where dating is actually a very pleasant experience, I always —and didn’t just have a gut feeling—that something about dating in America was off.Discussion is more or less a mode of exchanging your thoughts and ideas with a person whom you don’t yet know well. If you have a set of opinions, opinions that have already been validated by talking to lots of other people (or because you’ve already witnessed other people on TV having these opinions), then you have a certain level of confidence that your opinions are correct.
It’s a sexually-charged private conversation between two adults, not a watered-down public discussion that’s designed to be displayed to the entire country on a morning talk show. That’s why you go out to a bar or a club after a hard day’s work: to let your rational mind take a break and enjoy an emotional conversation with a beautiful woman who you want to take home—and who wants to be seduced and taken home by you as well. You’re not on some public talk show on primetime TV.
It’s much less risky and requires much less confidence to merely your emotional interest in the other person—real spontaneous interest, interest that can be easily rejected by the other person.
This reminded me of a time when I went out with a friend in New York few years ago.
This naturally leads to people wanting to endlessly discuss all kinds of topics (how many times have you heard the pseudo-expression “let’s keep an open dialogue”? And that opens the door for more and more discussions. I first eased into “safe” and boring topics like work and travel.
One night I had a date with a cute 29-year-old American girl. At some point we began talking about dating and she told me a story about her feminist friend who’s doing a Ph D on “cat calling.” I used that opportunity to ease further into other sexual topics. We were sitting across from each other, drinking beers and openly discussing various sexual topics.