] became a widow shortly before my husband [m/35] and I [f/34] met six years ago.Slowly, over that time, she has become more and more dependent on my husband emotionally and practically speaking.Despite the wealth of digital tools that allow people to search for potential partners, and even as one-in-ten Americans are now using one of the many online dating platforms, the vast majority of relationships still begin offline.Users of an online dating service would usually provide personal information, to enable them to search the service provider's database for other individuals.She has a sister and brother who are still alive (one each that have also passed away), but these people are very toxic.I know them myself and I kind of despise them both for how badly they treat my MIL, but she also is pretty awful to them. My husband has one sibling, a younger brother who still lives at home and doesn't work. Over the years, more and more, she has wanted to talk to my husband on the phone and have him come for long visits (she lives quite far away, many hours on a plane).
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He has decided he will make two, two-week trips a year to see her 6-months apart, and that's it (he is self-employed).
That may seem like a lot, but she is expecting him to be there for months, and he does need a lot of time to take care of all the life stuff she seems not to be able to handle.
Background My husband's mother, my MIL, is a very lonely person who does have a tough life.
She is extremely shy and introverted and has very few friends, my husband says that his father was the social one and basically organized their whole social life and she just rode along.