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When he first told people about the app, he said, "People were like, 'Oh, that's cool!
I could use it for 'blank' — and everyone's 'blank' was a little different." Maybe it's deceptive, but my immediate thought was that I could give it out when someone asks for my number at a bar and I'm not interested but don't feel like causing conflict by outright denying it. For now, though, I created a Burner number to test whether giving out my number more quickly would prevent my online dating conversations from dying down.
First, I gave out my Burner number to someone from Coffee Meets Bagel after it became clear that we had common professional and intellectual interests.
I did not receive his initial text, so I pinged him again as our Coffee Meets Bagel communication line was about to close (the app only lets people message each other during the first few weeks after they're matched).
Most online daters have had this experience: you start a conversation online, it seems to be going well, then someone drops the ball and nobody picks it up.
Often, when a conversation dies down online it's not because anyone said anything offensive.
Using actual texting, we made tentative plans to hang out in the near future, but nobody followed up and I'm not sure whose court the ball is in right now.
My prediction is that this one will die down despite giving out my number, even my real one.
I hadn't realized that there was this much stigma around revealing your number, but now I see that I was in fact afraid of coming off too forward.
Lastly, I gave out my Burner number to someone from Ok Cupid.
We were messaging back and forth so rapidly that it didn't make sense to keep checking my Ok Cupid messages every few minutes, and giving out my number allowed our conversation to flow more naturally.
It's hard to say whether the app kept my online interactions going longer because I don't know how things would have turned out had I not given out the number.
That said, here's what happened when I tried giving out my number sooner than I normally would on three different apps with the security that Burner afforded me.