Teenagers dating older
Because of this, I was drawn to people like my best friend, who was dynamic and bold. I was causing trouble, making things difficult for everyone. " my friend whispered as we walked back to the car with the guys a few steps ahead. "Like we were supposed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, or something." "Well," she said slowly. I'd completely accepted her romance with an older guy as normal, even destined. When he wasn't upset, he was in kindness overdrive, buying me things: a gold necklace with a floating heart, stuffed animals. "." My own voice — big, firm, filling the space — was a surprise to both of us. When I turned 21, I remember making a point, regularly, to look at teens and ask myself whether I'd want to hang out with them, much less date one. As a teen wishing to be an adult, it is easy to get in over your head. That if something feels wrong, that's all the reason you need to get out of there.
She was the one who things happened to, the starting point of every story. I grew to dread the moments we were alone, especially when I needed a ride home at the end of the night to make my curfew. I'd been quiet for so long, worried about hurting his feelings and the ripple effects of whatever actions I took. You don't need to offer an explanation, even if someone asks you for one. You can't just hang out with a guy and not expect him to get ideas, I told myself. Especially for girls, who are often taught that being polite and sweet should override all other instincts. The teen years loom ahead and I've experienced too much to rest easily. Don't worry about being nice, or hurting someone's feelings: they'll get over it. You don't have to wait, I want to tell her, until you have no choice.
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How wonderful it felt to have an "adult" who valued our opinion; thought we were not just cute but interesting.
My best friend was 14 when she fell in love with a 21 year old. My friend's older boyfriend was close with a guy I'll call T. My mother, spying him from the front window, asked me how old he was.
Before long, we had our own inside jokes, a shared eye-roll at yet another lover's quarrel in a small space.
We talked about music, about high school, his experience then and mine now.
He, in turn, went to find my friend and her boyfriend, who were none too pleased at having to leave so soon after we got there. Just like that, you lose your footing, and you're in over your head. He noticed my sudden distance and pouted, unsettling to see in an adult. It seemed just about every woman I knew had a similar story, a time when wanting attention meant getting the wrong kind entirely.